tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4791688654948426375.post1698809390804033191..comments2024-02-05T01:42:59.660-08:00Comments on It Feels Like Chaos: Prejudice in Preschool?It Feels Like Chaoshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10671848129910298975noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4791688654948426375.post-78944115260065377452013-12-13T09:49:43.950-08:002013-12-13T09:49:43.950-08:00Thank you for one of the most insightful & gra...Thank you for one of the most insightful & gracious posts I've read on this topic. amber robinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13558376060478674883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4791688654948426375.post-79265295618653733652013-12-12T06:15:52.322-08:002013-12-12T06:15:52.322-08:00I can imagine that all of this was REALLY hard to ...I can imagine that all of this was REALLY hard to deal with emotionally. Anytime our kids are slighted or abused in ANY way makes us mama's quite fierce. But I think the advice that you got and the way you handled it was perfect. The book was a wonderful idea. I just had to tell you this story of something that happened to me. When my oldest son was close to 3 we were selling an old table and chair set and a black woman came to look at it to possibly buy. My oldest son was just waking from his nap, ~ and he always woke up kind of crabby ~ so I was holding him as we looked at the table that was in our garage. She was a nice woman and she began trying to talk to my son. He was not responding to her questions about his name, what he liked to play etc., and finally looked at her and said, "I don't like black faces." I of course just wanted to sink right through the floor. I don't know if he had ever seen a black person before and certainly none up close like that. She laughed it off and seemed genuinely unaffected by the remark. I of course apologized profusely. After she had left we of course sat down with him and explained different colored skin and how God loves us all. How his remark was NOT nice etc., etc. He went on of course to be a very unprejudiced person whose best friend at the age of 9, to this day btw and the guys are 37 now, was black. Sometimes kids just say such things out of their own innocence over something different, rather than with any real malice etc. Like pointing out someone is fat, or skinny, or freckled, or wears glasses, has a wheel chair, or is even to pale....my daughter heard that a few times, lol. The old saying of kids can be so cruel is just so true. But we don't have any way of really stopping how human nature seems to be so all we can do it teach our kids the response to such things should they be said to them, and how important it is to learn to control the tongue and what they say as well. A person who is WELL loved, like your daughter, will have a sense of pride in who she is and unfornately will learn at an early age it seems to understand how what we say can hurt. HUGS to you!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09836655708421528876noreply@blogger.com