So, as I posted this morning, my plan for the day was to take my 3 year old daughter and my 1 year old son with me to the grocery store and farmer's market because even though it was my 3 year old's normal preschool day, they were still on Easter holiday. But, as soon as I hit "post" on the blog and mustered the will to tackle my agenda for the day, the phone rang.
One of my daughter's friends wanted her to come over and play. I gathered that her mom was offering a playdate where I was free to leave so I agreed. The errands had to get done, so as much as I'd have liked to spend the morning watching my little girl play with her friend, I just couldn't today.
Now this would be my daughter's first playdate without Mommy staying with her.
A milestone hit a little earlier than her older brother did, but this other mommy is a friend I have known for a while and our girls know each other very well. My friend and I both have older boys so our girls are not the sheltered firstborns and we moms have figured out the magic that the drop off playdate can be! Not that I don't enjoy some quality momversation during a stay and watch playdate, but the errands are a bit easier with one less child in tow!
Now, my little girl has had her bouts with being clingy, specifically a two and a half year bout that began when she was born and then some sporadic bouts since turning two and a half. But, she has become much more independent in the last year. Still, I wasn't sure if my leaving the playdate would freak her out or not.
I eased into it. "Guess what? L wants you to come play at her house. Do you want to go?" She replies, "Yes!" Okay, then let's get dressed.
I waited until about 10 minutes before we needed to leave to break it to her that I wouldn't be staying with her for the playdate. I assured her that I'd be back in an hour and a half and that L's mom would be there and what fun it is to be a big girl and play at friends' houses without your mommy there! She seemed skeptical but bought into the idea. However there was still big potential for a freakout, crying, clinging fit once we got there and the reality of my leaving set in.
I pulled up to the house. My friend and her daughter came outside. We exchanged a little conversation about how our Easters were, then my daughter and her little friend took off running into the house and closed the door. My friend and I looked at each other and said, "Well, okay!"
That was it y'all!
No clinging, no crying, NOT EVEN A GOODBYE!
From the little girl I carried around on my hip for the first 2 and a half years of her life because she refused to walk or leave my side without major drama.
I wasn't sure if I should cry or cheer.
I drove off for the farmer's market with just my toddler strapped in the backseat and did a little of both.
Well, not really crying, but a moment of sadness for the rapid growing up of my baby girl. But, also cheering and pride for the big girl she is becoming.
Such is the life of a mom. We are to work ourselves out of a job, to slowly, slowly, slowly make them more independent.
As much as we think we'd like to keep them babies by our side forever, this would deprive them from experiencing life, the joy of making their own way in the world, and fulfilling the destiny that God has for them. And deprive us moms of the blessing of watching it happen.
So this Gratituesday I'm thankful for God's design, because if I had my way I might just choose to freeze my little girl right here at 3 years old!
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